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Hi there! From what you have mentioned, it seems that things are going well and you seem to be pretty comfortable around him, which is good.

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He mentioned that he wanted to plan something for this coming weekend, so I dunno if coffee will happen, but that's definitely a good idea.

When he plans for meet-ups, I would suggest that you try having some input in that as well. I think it would be important that the both of you are equally involved in planning things together rather than you (for example) just reacting. If there is something he suggests, and if you feel you would like to do something else, or would like to go somewhere else, try to be open about it with him. Of course, things can also just evolve without much planning needed.

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So, just in case this doesn't work out (and I hope it does), what are the red flags that I should be aware of and if it does work out, what can I do to keep him and build a strong relationship?

I think one of the 'red flags' would be when you start losing interest or when you no longer feel a connection. You will know when you start feeling differently about seeing him or spending much time with him. As you get to know him more, you will be able to judge as to whether there is a real connection and as to whether he is your type.

As you get to know someone, you will also learn what your needs are and what you are looking for in a relationship. It can very well happen that after a while you come to the realization that 'this is not what I'm looking for'.

To build a strong relationship, both have to be able to grow with each other. You have to be able to trust him and also accept his faults and weaknesses. And he would have to do pretty much the same.

A relationship will bring out the best and the worst in us. It also allows us to become maturer in many ways. In a relationship, not only are we learning things about the other person, but we are also learning things about ourselves. As we learn new things, a relationship can become stronger because we are making an effort to learn about the other person and try to accept and value the person for who that person is. Also, being open and honest with each other and respecting each others' boundaries and space, will also help in making a relationship stronger. Communication and talking about things, is key.

But given where you are at, I wouldn't worry about looking that far down the road. Just try to enjoy each meet-up that you have with him, while listening to your instincts. Try not to get ahead of yourself, which is hard at times, especially if feelings are involved. You want to make sure that you don't miss some clues as to whether this is going to work out, along the way.

Hope this helps a bit.

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